Do you also think a
girl is to
be blamed if she is raped?
It was only in the afternoon when
I have opened my facebook account like my regular routine (almost every 5mins job
:p) I saw another news article on rape posted which says a girl who went to
disc was gang raped while returning home at about 11pm in the night by some
guys who were in the same disc who followed her later while returning. The
thing that disturbed me was few comments on the post by some ‘gentlemen’ and to
my surprise by few ‘ladies’ too according to whom it was the mistake of that
girl to go to the disc at night, while few others have said that rapes are
invited by the girls who wear exposive dresses to draw all male attention. And
the most dramatic statement was.. ‘tali
ek haath se nahi bajjti hai’ (which means ‘one hand alone cannot make a
clap’ & perhaps it means ‘it takes two to make a quarrel’).
Well, my first question to him
and also to that segment of the society who thinks the similar way is that is
rape some kind of ‘Tali’??? Open the
newspaper, switch on to the TV news channels or look around you will also see
cases where 2 months old girls are being raped too. Which hand did they put
forward for that ‘tali’??? What special
dress they wore or what special gestures they gave that invited the rapist? Women
in veils are also being raped. I hope atleast they didn’t invite rapist by
their clothing. A woman dresses for
herself for her different purposes. Yes, clothing has many different roles to
play but in no way one should take it as an invitation for rape.
Talking about somebody’s dressing
and going to disc at night, I believe it’s completely one’s personal choice. I
am neither supporting to wear exposive dresses nor do I am supporting to go to
disc or bar at night or day but then there is something called as ‘right to
freedom’ and I think a girl has every right to choose her own dressing and
outing timings without giving a second thought just like any other guy of my
mother India. Don’t you think she have every right to go out freely whenever
she wish without worrying about the several pairs of lusty eyes or the dirty
minds? Do you think a girl is to be blamed if she is raped?
We always proudly say that we are
the people of 21st century but unfortunately we are still in such an
age where putting female at fault is so in trend. From their childhood we teach
the children about the gender differences and the different gender roles but
unfortunately we keep the total giant share of rules & restrictions for the
girls only. We achieved independence long back but till date the female section
of our society is struggling to achieve it in true sense.
The gender roles taught at
childhood play a great role as we grow up. It adds value and moral to our
self-concept & at the same time influences our reaction towards the
surrounding environment. As we all know early childhood is best time to mold or
shape a person I think the best education to respect the women and not to see
them as sex object should also be done at this age.
Marching with candles on hand at
night after a girl has already become a victim or by positing few comments by
abusing or cursing the rapist on social networking sites won’t help the society
in anyway but I think the right education at the right time to the youngsters
may help. The day we will STOP overrating the male dominating society &
underrating the female value, half of our task will be done. I think it’s
already time for us to change the mindset and to teach our youngsters not to
rape instead of teaching a girl not to be raped by asking her to dress in a
particular way or by restricting her freedom to roam or enjoy life. In-fact I
think we are already running late at it but then I also believe on the saying ‘better late than never’.
So at the end all I can say is I
will do my share to stop this but will you..???
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